It’s Okay If You Call Me Bossy

"Yack" Watercolor on paper. Copyright 2014 Totsymae (

“Yack” Watercolor on paper. Copyright 2014 Totsymae 

I’m disappointed. A little confused even. I’m trying to figure out what’s so wrong with calling women bossy. I mean, some are. It’s not the worse thing a woman can be called. How can you ban a word and why would you want to?

You know what, women folk? Sucking meat from teeth. Y’all are really starting to get on my nerves. You whine too much. You’re way too sensitive and you always want something. Look, you wanted equal rights, so now you get a little of what men folk been getting. Don’t get out here in the work world acting all tough and soon as somebody call you a name, you go to flinching like some damsel in distress. I mean, this whole banning thing sounds either premenstrual or menopausal. Take your pick according to which stage of life you’re in.

Flicking lighter to fire up cigarette. It’s always something with you women folk. You want contraception, the morning after pill, men to help with domestic stuff, a woman president (which I’m fully and whole-heartedly against, by the way), planned parenthood and yaddah freakin’ yaddah. You just don’t get a word removed from folk vocabulary. I like the word bossy. All it means to me is a person who gets things done. I mean, if you women folk are against the word and all and you’re proponents for equal rights, get it banned for men too. Better yet, get prick banned and all those other derogatory terms that mean so much worse than bossy. What about slut? Those kinda folk work at the office too, you know. 

And what happens if the word’s banned and somebody says it anyway? Will it come down to something like a sexual harassment suit? I can’t imagine being cross-examined or being involved in such a case. But you know the root issue, right? This wouldn’t be a conversation today if women folk had just stayed barefoot and pregnant and somebody wasn’t trying to sell a book. Scratching unshaven underarm.

14 thoughts on “It’s Okay If You Call Me Bossy

  1. I like that you like the word bossy. I still shy away from being seen like that, even though I want to be. At the last moment, I often turn away rather than be seen as the bad guy. But yanno, I *like* people who are definite and who are in charge. Especially in women. So it’s a goal of mine to lose my fear of bossy.


    • You will lose it. I don’t consider myself bossy but there are times where I have been. As for women who have been in my life, I probably didn’t use that term, if I gave them much thought at all.


  2. I love when you get on your soapbox, Totsy. We women need to take the good with the bad. I’m okay with being called bossy. I’m the boss of my department after all. Though I’d rather be called a pushy New Yorker. I take pride in my roots, what can I say?


    • It’s a non-issue. What’s funny is that some prominent women bosses are on this whole campaign and I’m real sure they’ve had to assert themselves more aggressively at times. It’s silly.

      Take pride then. We all need that.


  3. Hmm, everybody wants to go to heaven but no one wants to die to get there. Bossy… that word is one I never saw as a good thing and can probably think of a few related words that women would like even less which, of course, I’m not going to say here out of respect to the women present.

    A bossy woman conjures up an image of a pain in the ass and not necessarily the woman who can take charge, bring order to chaos, positive stuff like that; as a matter of fact, most of the woman I think of as bossy actually have no idea what they’re doing other than making a lot of noise and issuing orders like they’re in the Army but are really a REMF – not gonna say what that means, either – and the more things don’t go the way they expect them to, the bossier they get.

    If there are women who are offended by the word, maybe they shouldn’t be a poster child for bossiness – just saying, that and I think it’s funny that they’re offended and want the word stricken from our language.

    Good luck with that one.


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